The Art ♥f Life : How to speak with Confidence?

Hi Samantha, I am struggling with low self confidence and am often afraid to speak out when I'm in a large group of friends or co workers.I feel so terrible. I really need to change this. I love the advice you give. Do you think you can help me be confident ? Thank you :) - Anonymous

Hi Sweetheart,

* Big Hugs* I know how you feel. Believe me I used to be a introvert for most of my School years. I always thought I had nothing interesting / important to say.It took me a while to get over it and go up to people and interact with them. I took some time to ask people around so that I would have something productive to say. Might I say I am not the most confident person and I myself have to work on many aspects but I hope these few tips and advice will help you be more confident.Hopefully this will pull you out of your comfort zone and help you do something different.

The number one thing you have to pay attention to is your body language. Always try to hold your chin parallel to the floor. And be present when your talking. I used to always look down. So put everything away and walk with confidence when you are walking into a room with people :)
Second thing is to do things on your own. Don't depend on your family or close friends. Go to the gym alone, or go to a restaurant and eat alone. No one actually cares why your eating alone. Take away that security blanket that you have created for your self :)
Peoples spectator. One thing why I was an introvert was that I always felt that I had nothing interesting to say but this gave me a chance to observe people, what they said and how they said things. So learn people :)
Learn how to make people feel good by the things you say and do. Just say nice things and be genuine. Confident people are not afraid to compliment others :)
Be Magnetic. Make people want to be around you :)
Be Decisive. This is one thing I need to work on. I am so easy going. when Im in a group and some one asks me what i want to eat or what I want o do, i always say , ill have anything or whatever. Being decisive is knowing yourself. so just go ahead and make a decision :)
Take compliments and criticism in the same way. You alone are responsible for your highest high and lowest low. Don't get offensive, it shows that you are nervous. Be a person who is whole and just say thank you :)